Dr. Kim, I’m looking forward to this new phase of journeying with you. I’ve spent a married lifetime with a wife, 3 beautiful daughters and two nieces who are all employed, female phenotype, high masking, highly functioning, yet interiorly broken and confused by the new challenges of rearing our grandchildren that they don’t recognize as the potential product of their own cPTSD upbringing by BPD and autistic mothers. Your video content has kept me company over many years now. And though comforting, it makes me feel as though I’m watching a psycho drama in slow motion, dancing on eggshells all the while. Thank you for shedding some light on this chronic condition with all its beauty and difficulties. 🙏🏼
I enjoyed your story about your grandmother. I encourage you to use Substack as a free flow of your creativity in writing, recipes, anything you’d like to share. Surprise & delight me!
Your YouTube is my go-to for topic related content (love the playlist organization). Keep up the great work, Kim. You are an inspiration. 🤍🙏🏼
So glad you are here in Substack. I recommended you to my daughter. She stays off of social media for her well being. Substack content is less overwhelming and easier to digest than instagram for me as well. Your grandma sounds like mine even down to the “warsh-board.”
I appreciate you being here and the rec to your daughter. You're right - Substack feels inherently less triggering and more a place where we have some control over what we engage with...lol on the warsh board too! I had forgotten that my grandparents said it like that until I started writing. Hope you have a beautiful day:)
thanks for being a leader in the new neurodiversity paradigm shift. I'm very late self identified audhd pda-er raised by undiagnosed autistic father and bipolar ADHD narcissistic mom. glad to have community.
Not quite sure how I became a free subscriber to you but here I am. This piece is from January so someone restacked it and I was happy to read it. Like others, your grandmother story resonated with me. I never knew mine all that well, she died when I was three. From my mother I know she was a nurse who was hired by my grandfather in the late 1800s to care for his young children after his first wife died in childbirth. My grandfather was something of a “player” back in the day and she ended up pregnant. It was quite the scandal and it took years for her to be accepted by his sisters.
She had 3 children when she started working for him and he also had 3 children at the time. They did get married before their 1st child together was born, and then they went on to have 5 more children together, so my mom was 1 of 12. He wasn’t faithful to her while they were married but his chronic infidelity was a major reason his sisters finally accepted her. He could charm the birds out of the trees and even tho’ he was the organist at the local Lutheran church, he continued in his “profligate” ways. She had their last child together when she was 50 (it was 1920). As an old hippie trippy who came of age in 1969, I just can’t imagine the way she had to live her life and the choices she had to make. When I was very young (after my grandmother had died) he lived with my mom’s sister just up the street from where we lived and I have incredibly fond memories of him from the 50s. Now…after decades of self reflection, personal evolution, and family trauma…maybe not so much.
From your pictures you are probably a bit younger than I am (74). Still, I will be interested in reading what you have to say.
I heard you talk about, in one of your recent youtube videos, that rumination could possibly relate to the repetitive behaviours of autism. That is a WOW - BIG time for me. And a great relief. I share in the experiences that most of us who watch you, do, so there are multiple things going on in my psyche. Rumination has been a near constant. While I attributed it mostly to cptsd and all the stuff that goes with that, seeing that at least part of it is just the way my brain works gives me a new tool to help with it. That is simply recognizing it as part of the autistic part of me. That realization alone, can, for me, if not negate what’s happening in my head, give me a power to greatly minimize the seeming importance of the ruminating thought content.
I can’t express what a relief that is and I’m gobsmacked with gratitude! 💖
Joined substack to follow you after finding you on YouTube..love your style content and candor ...your story about your grandma resonated with me...my mother was an orphan by 7 years old and raised with her 2 sisters by her granny who had 12 children lost 2 in infancy and 2 in the war ..then in her 80s had to raise her sons children ...I have nothing but admiration for that generation of women.....
Dr. Kim, I’m looking forward to this new phase of journeying with you. I’ve spent a married lifetime with a wife, 3 beautiful daughters and two nieces who are all employed, female phenotype, high masking, highly functioning, yet interiorly broken and confused by the new challenges of rearing our grandchildren that they don’t recognize as the potential product of their own cPTSD upbringing by BPD and autistic mothers. Your video content has kept me company over many years now. And though comforting, it makes me feel as though I’m watching a psycho drama in slow motion, dancing on eggshells all the while. Thank you for shedding some light on this chronic condition with all its beauty and difficulties. 🙏🏼
🤍🙏🏼 Welcome to Substack Kim!
I’ve been following you on YouTube for over a year… Excited to learn from you here.
Welcome and thank you so much! Love to hear any thoughts you have about content you would find helpful! Hope you have a lovely day!!
I enjoyed your story about your grandmother. I encourage you to use Substack as a free flow of your creativity in writing, recipes, anything you’d like to share. Surprise & delight me!
Your YouTube is my go-to for topic related content (love the playlist organization). Keep up the great work, Kim. You are an inspiration. 🤍🙏🏼
So glad you are here in Substack. I recommended you to my daughter. She stays off of social media for her well being. Substack content is less overwhelming and easier to digest than instagram for me as well. Your grandma sounds like mine even down to the “warsh-board.”
I appreciate you being here and the rec to your daughter. You're right - Substack feels inherently less triggering and more a place where we have some control over what we engage with...lol on the warsh board too! I had forgotten that my grandparents said it like that until I started writing. Hope you have a beautiful day:)
Loved the story about your grandma. A very timely reminder I can definitely relate to right now. 🖤
Thank you so much for joining me here! xo
thanks for being a leader in the new neurodiversity paradigm shift. I'm very late self identified audhd pda-er raised by undiagnosed autistic father and bipolar ADHD narcissistic mom. glad to have community.
Wow, what a great resource! A nice complement to your YouTube channel, Dr Kim! I shall be returning! Thanks!
I am so happy you thinks so! Thank you for joining me here too! xo
I think this is exactly what I need! Thank you 🥰
Not quite sure how I became a free subscriber to you but here I am. This piece is from January so someone restacked it and I was happy to read it. Like others, your grandmother story resonated with me. I never knew mine all that well, she died when I was three. From my mother I know she was a nurse who was hired by my grandfather in the late 1800s to care for his young children after his first wife died in childbirth. My grandfather was something of a “player” back in the day and she ended up pregnant. It was quite the scandal and it took years for her to be accepted by his sisters.
She had 3 children when she started working for him and he also had 3 children at the time. They did get married before their 1st child together was born, and then they went on to have 5 more children together, so my mom was 1 of 12. He wasn’t faithful to her while they were married but his chronic infidelity was a major reason his sisters finally accepted her. He could charm the birds out of the trees and even tho’ he was the organist at the local Lutheran church, he continued in his “profligate” ways. She had their last child together when she was 50 (it was 1920). As an old hippie trippy who came of age in 1969, I just can’t imagine the way she had to live her life and the choices she had to make. When I was very young (after my grandmother had died) he lived with my mom’s sister just up the street from where we lived and I have incredibly fond memories of him from the 50s. Now…after decades of self reflection, personal evolution, and family trauma…maybe not so much.
From your pictures you are probably a bit younger than I am (74). Still, I will be interested in reading what you have to say.
I really enjoyed this 💞
Love this new hangout Kim! Inspiring! You write well. Thank you…
I heard you talk about, in one of your recent youtube videos, that rumination could possibly relate to the repetitive behaviours of autism. That is a WOW - BIG time for me. And a great relief. I share in the experiences that most of us who watch you, do, so there are multiple things going on in my psyche. Rumination has been a near constant. While I attributed it mostly to cptsd and all the stuff that goes with that, seeing that at least part of it is just the way my brain works gives me a new tool to help with it. That is simply recognizing it as part of the autistic part of me. That realization alone, can, for me, if not negate what’s happening in my head, give me a power to greatly minimize the seeming importance of the ruminating thought content.
I can’t express what a relief that is and I’m gobsmacked with gratitude! 💖
Enjoyed you on YT... so glad you're here... such a big, juicy, inaugural newsletter... looking forward to more! ❤️ from Aus
Joined substack to follow you after finding you on YouTube..love your style content and candor ...your story about your grandma resonated with me...my mother was an orphan by 7 years old and raised with her 2 sisters by her granny who had 12 children lost 2 in infancy and 2 in the war ..then in her 80s had to raise her sons children ...I have nothing but admiration for that generation of women.....